Relax, it is (almost always) ok to enjoy sex during pregnancy
It is safe* for the baby! (*there are very few exceptions)
Sex during pregnancy, like sex at any time, should be enjoyable. Tiredness, nausea and vomiting, emotional highs and lows, breast tenderness and baby getting bigger create unique challenges. There is no getting around it, you will need to make some adjustments!
Anxiety about hurting baby or putting the pregnancy at risk is a common barrier in couples I talk to, but there are very few reasons why sex during pregnancy would NOT be ok from a medical point of view.
The reasons why sex might not be ok include:
bleeding from the vagina during pregnancy when we don’t know why this is happening
while it’s hard to know for sure, it is thought best not to have sex for a week after a threatened miscarriage
if you have a short cervix (your midwife or doctor would advise you about this if it is found at your 18-20 week scan)
if you have a stitch in your cervix (cerclage) as a precaution to reduce the risk of a late miscarriage or premature baby
a low-lying placenta (your midwife or doctor would be able to advise you about this, which is checked for at the 18-20 week scan)
if your waters have broken
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*I didn’t find many articles to link you to. Seems like we don’t officially talk about sex in pregnancy much!
This is not individual medical advice, this is general information only. If you have a specific question or a particular circumstance, please discuss it with your midwife or doctor.